What’s a ceremony of engagement?
Definitions vary from each other, but a ceremony of engagement (or marriage) can be seen as a agreement with up to five facets.
The union of a couple, whether with a homosexual or heterosexual ceremony, is a personal, religious, family and social agreement. It is only the fifth facet of the union, the legal one, which distinguishes from a heterosexual ceremony a same-sex commitment ceremony or wedding.
While we should keep fighting for all our citizens ‘ legal rights, that doesn’t mean that everyone can’t have unique, lovely, and meaningful ceremonies and unions.
Is the state legally acknowledged an engagement ceremony?
Most of the time, no. The vast majority of countries and provinces do not acknowledge the same-sex couple union. For example, with the 1997 passage in Minnesota’s Legislature of the so-called “Defense of Marriage Act,” the state wiped out any previous attempts to recognize such marriages. Even the newly formed Civil Union of Vermont refers only to couples in that country, not when they leave to go to any other country. Therefore, any legal advantages of your union must be produced on your own, by such legal means as economic and medical lawyers ‘ powers, wills, and “pre-nuptials.”
If there is no legal recognition of an engagement ceremony, why do you have one?
In addition to being a legal institution, marriage can also be a personal, religious, family and social institution. Even if the state does not acknowledge the union, it is binding on all the parties concerned and all the other facets.
Why make the ceremony a government ceremony?
A ceremony of marriage or engagement is the government testimony of vows. The guests at a ceremony of engagement play an active and vital role of the ceremony, as the vows are witnessed by everyone in attendance.
Who should we be inviting to our ceremony of engagement?
A couple may invite the most important people to them for an engagement ceremony, the ones they want to witness their vows openly. The visitors are an active and vital component of the ceremony as witnesses. Vows are a private agreement, and the agreement also becomes public by having them witnessed. It may also be a religious agreement to involve a minister, although not all couples choose this choice.
Why do you use an officer?
In the planning and execution of the case, an officer experienced with engagement ceremonies is very helpful. A minister experienced with same-sex unions has repeatedly conducted this ceremony and its rituals, not only knowing all the facets, but also all the differences. Processionals, recessionals, the “giving away” escort the one betrothed to the other, these and all the other components need to be coordinated and decided upon.
Not only does an experienced minister help write the ceremony, but he also helps the phase handle the event, keeping stuff going smoothly. The pair will do this ceremony only once, likely with just one rehearsal, and a calm, skilled officer keeps the ceremony smoothly flowing. It helps to make the event ceremonial, meaningful, and unique by having someone else there who really understands the ropes.
Do we have to write our own vows? Why the rings of return?
The pair can write vows, or the minister can assist the pair in choosing traditional vows or variants. The ring exchange is the sign of the couple’s vows. Without rings, vows can be exchanged, but the symbols are strong, and rings are a physical sign of those vows.
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Rev. Tomkin Coleman