Women’s chameleons. Admit it— we all saw it, and many did it in their life at least once. While it is happening, we may not always be conscious of it, but it occurs far too often and we acknowledge it later. Taking on our lovers ‘ character and views while we’re dating.
A female would rather have her teeth pulled without the sedative than the Republican vote all her life; yet she spouts the GOP line as if she were born to it after meeting her new partner. She spent holidays spouting the evils of red meat; she’s barbecuing steaks with her fresh partner at her side. She has created enough close relationships with gay men to ask if she is considering surgery for gender alignment. She dropped them all quicker after the third date than Focus In The Family.
So what was going on? What happened is something that happens with hundreds of women every day— she thinks she’s found the one (male or female), and to make sure this one doesn’t get away— the relationship works, she won’t take any opportunities. As her own and without issue, she will adopt his / her views. Were these modifications required by the fresh squeeze to continue the relationship? Naturally not. Indeed, if they knew about this weird metamorphosis— based on the state of their own mental health— they’d run into someone else’s arms screaming.
I believed once that females were only doing this to safeguard the fragile male ego. Society has, after all, taught females that the male ego was so sensitive, pandering and protecting it was our task as females. So how do you explain the same phenomenon among females? This is, of course, only a mental defect for females and a consequence of their own personalities.
Why are females so ready to give up much of themselves? Is this really needed conduct? And does anyone consider that stance as offensive as I am changing?I would have to suppose, on the face of it, that the females who are subject to this loss of self must be highly unsafe. Either fear of conflict or fear of losing a prospective lover, they appear to think that the price is worth paying in some way. So how are they going to survive one life? They seem to have survived it— so why don’t she see that too?
I don’t agree with all my spouse thinks, but I don’t expect her to agree with me on any problem either. Does that imply that we are not consistent? Naturally not. I believe I’d find life a little boring if my wife agreed with everything I said or felt. A healthy soul discussion is great. If nothing else, it’s a reminder that life is usually white and black— there’s also a heck of a lot of gray out there!
Recently, a nice friend of ours struck the dating market and jumped into a relationship almost as rapidly. Even though they spend a lot of time together, they have not yet moved in together, and they have decided not to date other people. I was watching the chameleon syndrome go through our buddy and doing my utmost to maintain my ideas to myself. I’ve listened to this lady mocking others for wearing make-up and swearing that she’d rather pull her teeth out, but the new squeeze talked to her about wearing eye-making and lipstick. Maybe our friend will appreciate wearing it, as well as the blouses; enjoy wearing her hair again long; and even find fulfillment in the new profession that has been selected. Perhaps all these modifications are for the best. But for the person she used to be, I can’t assist mourning. Somehow, before all these modifications, she seemed to me to be a happier individual.
So, on the subject, this was my quiet rant. Let me know what you’re thinking.
Until next time…