Do You Have to Come Out?

Outing— What’s the exercise you believe? In all instances, is it the correct thing to do? Is it correct at all times to do it? Is it reasonable for someone to go out? Would you under any conditions get out of someone? What an action and a word that is politically charged. Some people did it for political purposes— claiming that their Gay / Lesbian constituents were hurting a closed politician and the public should understand. Some people were ornamented out of spite. And some people insist that saying someone else is gay / lesbian is nothing incorrect— it is a declaration as benign as any other piece of data about the existence of a person. Finally, there are others who are going to insist that this is not the company of anyone, so it should not be discussed. Well… Let’s look at it…

It’s no company for anyone. Well, for the most part, I don’t think you’re dating or living with or feeling love for anyone’s company. Maybe it’s not— but…

When somebody discovers himself in love and all giddy and giggly, how can they avoid crying from the rooftops? How do you stop feeling when you’re together from glowing? How’s anyone doing? And is it reasonable to expect someone to contain that degree’s feelings? Hiding those emotions is certainly not natural. No one has ever had to force the name of the person they love to mention.

But let’s be frank with us. Those who aren’t out face some very severe problems. It’s quite extreme to be forced to conceal your emotions. Is it natural for your friends and family or even the public to conceal your love? It may not be natural to conceal emotions or even to expect it— but the choice to come out should be left to the discretion of the individual concerned when considering coming out to family or friends.

However, when we talk about how the media swarms throughout the life of celebrities— we have to tackle the problem of how much is fair game? We are handled with data about who dates who, who married who, who divorces who, etc. Nothing is preserved from the press and they feel the need to share everything with us in turn. We understand which couples are not married, but together we have kids. We understand which couples to get together cheated on their spouses. We understand every little filthy secret we can tell, except… (Whisper) Something like that is a lesbian. The press suddenly respects the privacy of the celebrity and does not share it with the public. Hell, there are some celebrities who are known to be lesbians (or homosexual), yet no press outlet will release them as little as their date / lover / spouse has been mentioned.

… I believe this reasoning, as well as the fact that it sends out a message of shame, is lacking in sensible substance.

Is it right to talk about the sexuality of somebody? Is it right? First, I think we need to determine the standard of what is public knowledge and what is private. No one hesitates to address who is dating who, etc., in today’s social climate. We would have to declare anything other than the norm to be incorrect or shameful in order to answer the query in the negative. I don’t understand the rest of you, but I’m not willing to create that statement.

I believe it’s time we got to bed with this issue. It’s time to start debating same-sex couples as we do heterosexual couples in the same matter-of-fact way. After all, if we don’t want to treat ourselves equally, how can we expect this to be done by the rest of the world?

Until next time…